The Guide to Self Care

Hello everyone! Hope everything is going well.

Today I've decided to touch on a subject that is very meaningful to me and that is self care.

There is honestly nothing more important than taking care of your body and mentality. I notice that often we, as humans, forget to really take a
step back and relax every once and a while because all of our energy goes to other priorities that must be taken care of.

And if you think you don't have time to take a day or even a few hours for yourself, believe me, you do.

A mini disclaimer: I am in no way an expert in the methods of self care as there are serious things in life that require such care. These methods and DIY remedies have been personally successful and I will solely share what I know. If you think you are in any immediate/severe distress call 911 or someone extremely close to you.

1. Keep Yourself Busy

When you try to focus on other things, it can act as a temporary leave from all of those cloudy, gross emotions that usually come up when you're just lying in bed waiting for time to pass by. As someone who suffers from depression (will discuss more thoroughly in another blog post), I generally prefer doing productive tasks because once you're done with everything it feels kind of awesome. Whether it's finishing a school project or preparing for that work presentation, getting it done will give you a better sense of self and maybe you're presence actually means a lot more than you think!

If you're not in the state to accomplish such tasks (like I was), baby steps can be taken instead!
I really enjoyed just writing out all of my thoughts on a piece of paper or if you're artistic you can draw it out.

2. Follow a daily ritual

Okay so not really a ritual, per se. I find that making lists of things I need to do every day is oddly calming. It could be the most minor task like getting out of bed. If you did it, GO YOU. YOU EFFING ROCK. Sticking to a list like this will keep you in track and help you avoid going back to that dark place I know is so awful and lonely.

3. Move around as much as possible

This is one of the things I actually live by. I usually have to work super early shifts like at 5 or 6AM, and I used to just go home at the end of my shift and pass out on my bed. I realized I would crash like this because I would sit on my couch and go on Tumblr or watch the news. I do agree that we all deserve to relax after a hard day but if you keep yourself moving you can get so many more things accomplished!

I've actually started to just take a little walk around my neighborhood or play with my cats. It's little things like these that can help you keep moving, because who wants to go run on a treadmill for four hours? Unless that's your thing, then by all means do it you superstar.

4. Reach out to people

When I was in my dark place, I honestly had like one and a half friends. The one half being that they felt obligated to hang out with me because like probably pitied me, people that you do NOT need to waste your time with! I recently reached out to a friend I hadn't seen in over a year and we had the best time! Try joining social clubs, getting a job, etc. I've met some of the coolest people just from my job.

**Just a little note: be with people who actually give a s*** about you. Actions speak louder than words, if they're going to be at your side you won't need them to assure you. I've had personal experience with this and there's a HUGE difference between someone saying they care about you and someone to checks in on you constantly and being that shoulder to cry on.


Ok I don't you if you haven't seen Parks and Rec but there's a hidden meaning beneath that "Treat Yo Self" episode. Take a day or however long you want and literally spoil yourself until you can't be spoiled anymore. Do a hobby, take a bath, mani/pedi, eat a huge cheat meal, the possibilities are endless! There's nothing I find more luxurious than getting in bed with my cat, a cup of tea, and a show that I can forcefully binge watch.

6. Physical touch

Not my kinda thing (unless it's with my cat because #catlady) but there are actual scientific studies that have confirmed snuggling as a major stress reliever. Amazing, right? If you have a partner/significant other laying in bed with them and nothing else will help. I have super weird personal space issues so this would probably stress me out more but most people find this super soothing! Give it a try. You can also substitute with a pet because that's what I do!

7. Purge

This is by no means required but is helpful when trying to flush out all the negative toxins in your mind. I usually will go to the gym and work out until my legs are shaking and I'm dripping in sweat. Or, if that's not your thing, driving and screaming to the music you're listening to is a great alternative. I honestly do this every day almost and nothing feels better than screaming out the words to your favorite song. I've recently taken a liking to the new One Direction album so I've got some hefty material for a while!

8. Speaking to a professional/medication

Once again, not for everyone. But if your problem persists with no end in sight or just seems to get worse it's best you seek out a professional about your issue. I recommend talking to a physician first and then get the recommendation for a specialist. My college, and most colleges also have health centers free of charge and you can actually speak to a therapist for free with no wait!

Medications are such a touchy subject and it differs so much with each person. I take medication for my mental issues and I am not ashamed of it at all because my mission is to be my best self. Talk to your doctor about finding what's best for you! Sometimes it takes a while to find the winner but there's one out there for everyone. And of course, listen to yourself. No one knows you like you do!

Lastly, if you ever feel the need to harm yourself, mentally or physically, or have any thoughts/feelings of suicide, call a hotline or 911. If it gets worse, get to an emergency room as soon as possible. I will leave the hotline numbers I have at the end of the post.

ALSO, if you feel like there's no one out there that cares for you, I can wholeheartedly tell you that I do and will drop anything if you feel the need to discuss anything. I know what it's like to be in a dark place with no light at the end of the tunnel and it is unbearable at times. I want you to stay strong and take care of yourself first and always first.

I take these things very seriously as should everyone. Unfortunately that's not the case because some just don't understand it. As someone who gets it, please never feel like you're alone because although I may not know you personally, I will treat you as if I do. No one deserves to feel like this. Period.

National Suicide Prevention Hotline: 1-800-273-8255
National Hopeline Network: 1-800-422-HOPE
LGBT+ Youth Suicide Hotline: 1-866-488-7386 (for those with anxiety and cannot make phone calls, this number can also be texted to).

Stay strong, this will pass.

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